There are many values that we hope to instill in our boys and one of which, is patience. According to, patience can be defined as:

1. the quality of being patient, as the bearing of provocation, annoyance,misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or thelike.
2. an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay.
We are living in a fast paced country with not much time to waste and we often tell our boys to “HURRY UP”. It contradicts our words and actions when we run into situations whereby we instruct our boys to “WAIT”. 
Have you ever came across the following situations in your life with your boy?
– Buying new toys for him and the first thing he did upon reaching the house is to unseal the toy box and start playing.
– Your boy asking you to bring him his food and water and without hesitation, you agreed.
– Waking your boy up at 6.00am and rushing him to brush his teeth, change into his uniform, pack his bag and eat his breakfast within 25 minutes so that he can catch his school bus at 6.30am.
– Your boy is unwilling to share his toy with others unless you instruct him to do so. Even so, he will attempt to snatch the toy back into his own possession within less than 5 minutes.
These are just a few to name. There are many circumstances in life which can be managed more effectively if we set a routine for the boys to follow. And these are extremely important in character building. The above situations call for attention in character building of the boys and we, as parents, should make good use of times like these to teach our boys about patience.
The boys can learn to wait before unsealing the toy box.
The boys can be taught to get their own food and water.
The boys can organise their bags the night before and wake up 5 to 10 minutes earlier before preparing to go to school. 
The boys can learn to share their toys with others and you can engage him in other tasks, to tame and to train his inner patience.
Patience can only be instilled when parents lead by example. We should try our best not to give in to time pressure and cause the boys to lose patience because of our actions. We will look deeper into this topic in the next few posts and discuss together on how to character-build our boys to become patient and lovable children!